What have you lost or has happened to you that has you feeling stuck or in a rut? What is it that’s holding you back? Do you find yourself desperately trying to get unstuck? We have all had setbacks – things that have happened to us that, quite frankly, threw us for a loop – like a divorce or a breakup, the loss of a loved one, the promotion we didn’t get, or the job we lost. Today let’s talk about how to get unstuck and comeback from a setback!
Setbacks happen, and when they do, we have to deal with them. We can’t change what has happened and what has been done, but we can learn from our experiences and become more resilient.
I want to share four strategies to help you come back from a setback. Reflect upon them, and once you’ve successfully done that, act upon them too.
#1 Allow yourself to be emotional
Yes! Acknowledge your feelings, and don’t bottle up or try to hide your emotions. We’re human, so we feel. But, as humans, we also have control over our emotions.
Allow yourself to feel whatever you’re feeling. If you want to cry, cry. If you need to scream, scream. But don’t allow your emotions to control you or make you act out or make rash decisions at the moment.
Uncontrolled emotions can destroy bridges and relationships.
Bottled up emotions can do more harm than the initial setback. These emotions can fester and snowball into other things such as anger, bitterness, hate or guilt. Feel what you’re feeling, don’t deny it, but also, don’t set up a tent and move in there either. Get it? Now get out of the tent, if you are living in one.
#2 Accept responsibility for your role
Yes, I know, the relationship failed because he or she wouldn’t change. It’s their fault. It was unfair how they treated you and singled you out. They didn’t acknowledge your skill set or talent and passed you over for the job when you were more than qualified.
I get it, I’ve been there. I’ve been married, separated, and divorced. I’ve missed out on opportunities and passed over for what I thought was my dream job. And through it all, I had to own up to my responsibility. I had to recognize my role, if any, in the situation and realize how I could make different choices or handle the situation differently.
No, I’m not saying that everything that happens to you is your fault or something you asked for or brought upon yourself. But I am saying that you are responsible for you and your own choices and how you react and respond to your life experiences.
Even when you find yourself a victim of someone else’s lack of love or their choices and bad decisions, you are still responsible for you. You also have the responsibility to heal and move on from a setback.
When you heal and move on, you are no longer anyone’s victim, and you take back your power and control of you.
#3 Assess the damage
Once you deal with your emotions and accept your responsibility, it’s time to access the damage. Is it really as bad as you think it is or thought it would be? Yes, you may have lost something or someone, but you are still here, and for good reason.
Despite the many love songs that say you “can’t live or breathe” without him or her, You’re still living and you’re still breathing. You didn’t think you could show your face in the office again or face your coworkers after you didn’t get the promotion, but you can and you did.
#4 Commit to taking action
Those of you that follow me, have watched my videos, coached with me as a client, or participated in my group coaching classes, my programs, workshops, and live events, or even purchased my book and other products, you know that I am a true advocate of taking ACTION.
After you assess the situation, determine what needs to be done and then do it. Don’t just talk about it or write it down. While these things are helpful and part of the process, they do not get you results or change your situation or pull you out of your rut.
To come back from a setback, you have to be committed to taking action and doing what’s needed to move on. Apply any lessons learned and figure out what you can do differently in the future to avoid the same setbacks.
In the midst of your setback, it may be hard to see how to change or deal with the situation, and you might not see any light at the end of the tunnel. But there is light. Look around you. Other people have been where you are and have lived to tell about it. They may be bruised and scratched up, but they are still here, and so are you.
Remember, you have the power to change any circumstance in your life and pull yourself out of any rut. You have the power to come back from any setback.
I hope that you learned something that you can use to make some positive changes in your life.
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Remember, with the right Balance, Support, Determination and Action, every dream is possible. Your Dream is possible!
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